While it is painful to forget someone, it is also painful to wait for someone but the truest pain, the toughest pain is trying to decide if you should wait or forget.
Pain will always come and go. It is just one major component to the grand scheme of life and love. It is in fact one of life’s great teachers, but it is necessary to move through it and not get stuck.
Pain can and will serve as a necessary teacher.
When we were children, it was natural for us to cry or throw a temper tantrum, it allowed the experience to move through us. Through the tears, yelling and crying, our emotions would flee and we would be washed clean in a sense.
As we got older we noticed and learned that expressing emotion in such a way was no longer appropriate, and so we were forced to develop coping strategies to deal with our feelings and emotions.
We may have begun bottling things up or just chose to run away from all of it.
Perhaps we fell into a state of mind that staying closed off and unwilling to try new things as it would keep us safe from any potential heartbreak, it would keep us safe from any rejection, and most definitely safe from future failures.
Pain comes with a sadistic side to it as well, no matter how well we know someone or something is bad for us; we continue to chase them, we continue to wait for them. It leads us to have an inner war with ourselves as to why we should not let them go, why we should see what could happen.
If you’ve ever gotten a tattoo – there is a therapeutic release that occurs for some of us. The pain brings ease, getting a tattoo relieves stress for me. Many girls dye or cut their hair after a break up, to that I say… Screw Cupid’s Arrow; hit me with a tattoo needle!