Whenever I am going through a difficult time, I may hesitate to call even my best friends because I don’t want to burden them with my troubles. This is especially true when I’ve been going through several challenges, even repeat challenges and I start to feel like I sound like a broken record.
It is important to remember that at times like these our friends sincerely want to be there for us whenever they can. We can always check with them to make sure it’s a good time for them before we start talking, and if it’s not a good time, we can call back at another time, or call another friend.
I know for myself that when I have a good friend, I don’t want them to suffer alone when I am just a simple and sometimes not so simple phone call away. I want them to call me and share their sorrows with me, as well as their joys, because this is what sharing a life through friendship is about.
It is at our lowest points that we really need to rely on our friends without worrying about if we are a burden or not. I never want anyone to feel bad about coming to me, chances are I will reassure you that I am more than happy to be there for you. In fact, rather than feeling burdened, I always feel better when I have been able to help a friend simply by listening emphatically while they vent or cry.
Without our friends, we would be distressed to get through the tough times and celebrate the good ones. If we leave our friends out of our process when the going gets tough, our friendships can begin to feel shallow. On the other hand, when you include your friends in the full story of your life–the good, the bad, the ugly and the in between –you begin to build authentic friendships that allow us to be who we truly are.
So if you ever feel like you need an ear to listen, shoulder to cry on or anything else; call on me to be your friend. I’ll be there.